3 LOVE KEYS FROM MOMS
by Lynda Spirit Baptiste
This past Mother’s Day gave me a chance to be so in touch with one simple truth… If you are breathing be thankful. If you have any Mother issues, it just does not matter, be grateful. Because one thing is for certain and two things are for sure; you would not be breathing if you did not first have a Mother. I take nothing away from Fathers. They are equally important, but if God decided and Your Mom labored to give you life, you owe YOU the very best life YOU can live. And I hope you are not second guessing that!
Advice Mothers Gave to the Men in Our Lives…
Brenda’s Son
Did Your Mom Help You Set the Criteria Of What The Ideal Women Should Be In Your Life?
My mother knew that I was capable of deciding for myself, so she never passed judgment on any of my girlfriends that I bought home. She just told me as long as I’m happy, that was what’s important. She told me, there will be a time in your life when you will decide what is best for you. She never made me feel like oh she’s not good enough for you or I’m better than her. She always had respect for the females that I bought home.
What Was Your Favorite Piece of Advice That She Gave?
That she is always going to love me. That I am always going to be her Son; no matter what! And one thing for sure, as I get older to always keep in contact with one another. She said as kids get older, they tend to lose contact with their mothers and fathers, because they tend to do their own thing. But she said never forget your parents, never forget the one (s) that raised you.
In Your Adult Life Have You Found Any Thing That Contradicts Her Advice?
No, I never found that. But something she used to always say was that it takes a man to raise a man. But that’s not true! I truly know a woman can raise a man. At a certain point she is going to have to let the man go to grow to be a man. And that is true!
Margaret’s Son
Did Your Mom Help You Set the Criteria Of What The Ideal Women Should Be In Your Life?
She didn’t necessarily help me. She gave me what she would have liked to have seen. Ultimately, I set the criteria myself.
What Was Your Favorite Piece of Advice That She Gave?
To always, be true to myself, which would give me the ability to be true with whomever I ended up with?
In You Adult Life Have You Found Any Thing That Contradicts Her Advice?
I’ve found that being true to myself is a good thing, but being true to her (my partner) and going in whole-heartedly can sometimes be a painful learning experience, sometimes it can be a positive learning experience.
Audrey’s Son
Did Your Mom Help You Set the Criteria Of What The Ideal Women Should Be In Your Life?
No… But every good woman that I was around did. She might not have been mine, she might have been someone else’s; but I took notice of her. Actually there was a situation where my friend had a girl; and I would see what they would go through and so and so. What I learned was how big a woman’s heart can be once she is in love. Also, that a woman will go far with her love for a man. I recognized that. But you have to have her heart. Otherwise, she will not go that far.
What Was Your Favorite Piece of Advice That She Gave?
Friendship! Friendship is the ultimate. Actually you have to like each other enough that you want to be in a, let’s say a LOVATIONSHIP! You have to want it, because there are going to be troubling times between you all that could make you say, hey I don’t like that, let me go my own way so on and so forth. BUT when it’s there and you want it, you always seem to find a way to work through it. So it’s not just an infatuation thing, but it’s a wanting thing to it. But both parties, both parties have to want that, at the same level. It can’t be, I want it this week and… you don’t want it this week. It’s you know what…we want this and find a way to discuss this is what we want. Sometimes you can want it…But you can’t seem to communicate that to one another.
In Your Adult Life Have You Found Any Thing That Contradicts This Advice?
Actually, that’s the WHOLE key. (Friendship) It’s not that it teaches you not to… it’s easy for you to grab at things and say it’s not true. If you look at the bigger picture, which leads back to friendship, you realize it’s going to be okay regardless which way it turns, once you know that you are friends.
My Mom passed when I was 11 years old. My brother raised me, along with family, friends, and teachers. I guess the community raised me.
And there you have it. The Learning Keys brought to us this week from the lessons taught and lived by the men in our lives are fairly clear and concise. And if you want to know more about how to live the life of love that is within YOU tune in again next week and every week for the next Thoughtful Thursday.
Lynda totally loves and completely enjoys helping YOU discover YOUR Life Purpose and showing you how to connect it to Your Career Passion and The Lovationship of Your Dreams. She is an Empowering, Experiential Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner and an Inspiring Certified-Master Life Purpose Coach.
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